Welcome to my gay spouse/straight spouse blog. Here we can share our experiences of dealing with a gay spouse or boyfriend/girlfriend.

"I think I might be gay." These words spoken by my ex-husband one night while we were still married divided my life in two. My life before I knew and my life after I knew. Having been married for over 10 years and with three children, I thought he was kidding me. When I saw that he was serious I think I went into shock for about six months. What does one do now?

I am starting this blog to prevent this from happening to others, if at all possible. I hope that comments can be forthcoming from at least 3 separate groups.

The first group would include those like myself that had been in a relationship/marriage with someone that we didn't know was gay and what our experiences taught us from that.

The second group would be those that had gotten into relationships/marriages hoping it would make their same-sex feelings disappear.

The third group would be the children from these relationships/marriages and how they feel about what took place for others to learn from.

I will be monitoring comments before they are posted (so assume there will be some lag time between when you comment and when they post...hopefully, within the same 24 hours) because this can become a very heated subject and my purpose of this blog is not to deride or discuss the subject of homosexuality (that would be another whole blog) but to educate others that might think they are in the same situation.